14. Dating

Dating used to be relatively easy. Your friends or sisters introduced you to a friend, you talked, went roller skating and and maybe announced you were going steady. This took you off the market (for a while). This process advanced to more serious levels and going steady morphed into engaged and getting married. Now breaking up was a bit harder and likely would involve lawyers. Today this still happens but is rare. Instead there are dating apps. This is where things fall off a cliff.

The apps created an endless marketplace with endless options. Women can post and receive hundreds of replies. Virtually any woman regardless of looks or inherent value will be inundated by likes which is the code word (to men) for free sex Why pay or put forth any efforts?

Of course this only applied to the top value men. And the definition is refined in proportion to the number of likes a woman gets. The more likes, the greater the qualification criteria. It started out bad and got progressively worse. Now even sub-par specimens demand 6 foot (or even 6’4″), stratospherically high incomes and wealth, professional model level looks and so on. This mass delusion is reinforced and amplified as each woman escalates standards to outcompete the other women. Calculations show that a typical delusional expectation equates to a 1 in a million odds of matching with the guy of their dreams (fantasies).

The few remaining men at the top of the heap that can qualify get 95% of the dates. The other men are not just rejected but actively demeaned and denigrated as losers or incels. They become invisible.

This lopsided marketplace with few men and countless women should have resulted in more realistic and reasonable standards from women. The women all want to capture a top tier guy and lock him down in marriage but the guys won’t commit. Why should they with a conveyor belt of free fun and sex? And they have been red-pilled and reject the old system of exploitation. They have won the game the women set up.

The women are choosing to share these top men rather than settle. They in effect agree to be part of a De facto harem voluntarily. Feminism at its finest collapsing into a neo-feudalistic system of oppression. And yet, they still won’t change. The marginal or sub-par women won’t even achieve this glory. They will live and die alone, childless and lonely, to be eventually eaten by their cats.

So called average guys, now including even the 90 percenters, are out of the game. They can’t compete against the outlandish delusions of most modern women. They are not happy about this.

So here is a fix. Ditch the apps. Don’t play a loser’s game. Don’t give up and hide or sulk. Change the game. Move to a small town with more churches than bars. Where traditional values still exist and feminism is rare. Mormon and other highly religious areas are good bets. This is a fail-proof strategy. Why? Because you don’t need to change or beat the system. You just need one good woman to marry (unless you end up in Southern Utah) out of perhaps hundreds available. Many women in small towns are single because there were no good choices. You can beat the locals and win the day. The odds are now finally in your favor.

Additional benefits include affordable houses, lower cost of living, slower paced life, smiles when you are out and about, option to grow your own food and become self-reliant, and more.

You need to move slow. You need to bring a skill that is in demand or a portable self-employment gig. Get involved locally and build a reputation for honesty and integrity. Be open and approachable. Join a church and get involved in local clubs and organizations. Volunteer your time and help out. You will not be lonely and can meet a good woman. Marriage and kids are back on the table. And you won’t need a time machine.

Be useful. If you are a worthless loser with no skills, personality or prospects or are an addict or criminal this will not change your life. You will quickly be found out and rejected. Small town folk are not stupid as you will soon discover. They are practical and resourceful They don’t depend on or want handouts and they will expect you to feel the same. You are still competing only on a more level playing field. Hope can be realistic and life can be good. The odds of this happening in large cities, especially corrupt blue sanctuary cities are close to zero. You don’t have that many years to waste trying.